All that We Hide

In our death-denying culture many of us dread going to funerals, and attend only out of obligation. But through the years I’ve found myself mysteriously drawn to many where there was no family expectation of my presence.  We had long since lost touch, and I would not be missed. I pay close attention to these impulses. …

Being Big, Being Small

I don’t know at what point in recent U.S. history children routinely started feeling wiser than their parents. This attitude felt so normal to me in my young adulthood, I never questioned it. Mothering my feisty teen-age daughter eventually made me wonder if something was wrong. Surely the “Question Authority” button I’d once sported wasn’t …

Another Vantage Point

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. –Rumi, translated by Coleman Barks Such a tantalizing invitation. I have wandered into Rumi’s sun-dappled field often enough now that its fragrance stays with me. But as someone who has been soul-crushingly preoccupied with “getting it right” all my life, …